Couples Therapy · NYC
Most couples don’t come in because something is wrong. They come in because something is stuck.
You’ve had the same fight for the third time this month. You’re roommates more than partners. You love each other, you just can’t seem to talk about the hard things without it going sideways.
What I see in NYC couples
Most of the couples I work with are doing fine on paper. Two careers, full lives, often kids. The issue usually isn’t that you don’t love each other. It’s that the way you communicate has stopped working, or that you’ve drifted out of the rhythm you had when you got together, or that something happened (a betrayal, a loss, a fertility journey, a job change, a parenting disagreement) that you haven’t been able to repair on your own.
- The same conflict on repeat, escalating or shutting down
- Emotional distance after kids, a move, or a career shift
- Rebuilding trust after a breach, large or small
- Patterns you can both see but can’t seem to change
- Premarital work: building the toolkit before you need it
How couples work with me
My approach is hands-on. We’ll spend the first session or two understanding the patterns you’re caught in, then we’ll start working on them. I’ll share what I’m noticing in real time, ask questions you may not have asked each other, and gently challenge each of you when I see something useful. My work is informed by attachment theory and emotionally focused (EFT) principles, paired with practical communication strategies.
Most couples I see feel some movement in the first few sessions. You should be able to feel that something is shifting between you. If we’re not seeing change, I’ll say so and we’ll adjust.
My background
I’m a clinical instructor at Columbia University’s Department of Psychiatry, with formal training in evidence-based approaches to couples and family work. I’ve spent over a decade working with relationships across the full range: long marriages, new partnerships, premarital couples, high-conflict situations, and couples who are doing fine and want to build something stronger.
Common questions
Will we have to talk about our childhoods?
A little. Most patterns in couples come from somewhere, and a little context helps. The work is mostly about now, though.
What if my partner doesn’t want to come?
That’s a common starting place. We can begin one-on-one and see if they’d be willing to join later. A lot of couples work actually starts with one person.
Do you take sides?
No. I’ll be honest with both of you, and I’ll push back when one of you is missing something. But I’m not a referee.
How long does couples therapy usually take?
Most couples do 12 to 20 sessions. Some wrap up sooner; some stay longer for deeper work. We’ll check in regularly about whether you’re getting what you came for.
If something feels stuck, let’s talk about it.
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